Is it even possible to raise a fearless child? To create an early childhood environment that supports the idea that life is inherently good, people are generally kind, and that there is a Universal source of unlimited power that lovingly supports you in living out your own true purpose. These were the constant thoughts that returned to me regularly during my pregnancy. The underlying question remained constant; how do you raise a fearless child? I wasn't sure how it was possible but I knew it was my duty to do everything in my power to give it a try.
My first opportunity to test this theory came when my then four-month old son had his first hard-hitting cold. It was heartbreaking and a little scary to watch him struggle to breathe through his stuffy nose and hack through his heavily congested cough. Still, I knew his body was doing what it was supposed to do. The challenge, how do you let a four month old know that his body was healing itself? I knew he would get better soon; though his getting better couldn’t come soon enough for me or my husband. This was a chance for me to teach him to be fearless in the face of discomfort. It was his opportunity to learn to trust that things would be better. Even though I couldn’t explain it to him verbally, I could let him know through non-verbal communication that he was safe and that he would feel better soon. I held him close, kept him as comfortable as possible with lots of fluids and soothing steam sessions, and cooed softly in his ear over and over that he would be okay.
In the end, it all came down to the common sense, the best thing I could do was stay calm, supportive and refrain from filling his personal space with unnecessary worries or fears. There were no midnight runs to emergency when he spit up more than usual, or mad dashes to the pharmacy for prescription strength cough medicine, or panicked pleas to the heavens for miracle relief. Instead, I decided to take my own medicine, I needed to overcome my own fears. To raise a fearless child I have to be fearless in the face of life's obstacles, I have to show him that it is safe to trust our bodies, and that in the end things will turn out okay. The good news was that as I expected he was soon feeling better and even his cough quickly began to wane.
Soon as he began to play gleefully in his little walker at my feet, it became clear the cold had officially passed and he was no worse for the wear. I like to think, hopefully, the lesson that life is good, he is safe, and I will always be there came shining through in the end.
One of the challenges of being a seeker in life is that we often find ourselves searching the world we see outside. We look to other people, places and even times to find meaning or purpose in our own lives. When the truth is the only purpose we can fully engage is the one that burns within us. Whatever we see outside, for good or ill, it is only a reflection of the real person, place or event. We simply can't know the full depth of anything that is not of our own making or experience.
In NLP (Neural Linguistic Programming) we abide by the premise that "The Map is NOT the Territory". In other words, I can show you a map of Texas, I can even include as much detail as will fit on the page but the true experience of living and being a part of that place can only be realized through experience and even then because said experience is subjective it will be different for each individual. For some the experience of Texas is a broad open space of desolate land and endless oil rigs. For others it's the heartland of Americana and all things country. It could even be seen as a black mark on society for those who's experience and memories evoke images of slavery, the Klan, the Alamo.
None of this is transmitted to the viewer when he/she looks at a map of Texas. So, it is for our lives and the world we see outside ourselves, even being in the space we can only catch a glimpse at what we call reality. The rest is a co-creative masterpiece beyond our individual scope. The beautiful thing is that science has proven that as creators we have the POWER to shift and shape that reality. We do that by holding visions and creating beliefs about what we want to see in our world. Take a look at the following video excerpt, The POWER of Belief, from the former POWER Plan program (Now the Master Creators Academy). Remember, the best way to FIND your way is to create it!
Many of my clients who are in career transition often find themselves trapped in in-action. They know there is something more they should be doing with their life and feel as if they are not living in line with their purpose. Whether they have been laid off or are struggling un-successfully through their current job the bottom line is they are not satisfied with what they are doing for employment and they keep banging their head on the wall asking, what do I do now? What is it that will make them happy, fulfilled, successful?
Often, there is something calling out from deep in their soul that is not being expressed. This leaves them feeling disconnected or dissatisfied with their current efforts and sometimes they aren't really even sure what it is. They just KNOW what it isn't. Usually, the one thing they know is that it isn't what they are currently doing for work. Some have been in the same field for so long they don't even think they are capable of doing anything else. Luckily, I get to remind them that as long as they are breathing anything is possible. Despite the tired excuses running around in their head of someone being younger, wiser, having more experience, they have the capacity to learn, grow, change and succeed no matter what.
One of the best tools we have at Divine Strategy is the Authentic Role Worksheet. This simple worksheet helps my clients look at their natural talents, god-given-gifts, personal inspirations and spiritual beliefs to create a framework for their own Unique Life Purpose. Below is a quick demonstration on how to utilize this 4 step process to create your own ULP. Watch the video then download the form and share your UniqueLife Purpose with us in the comments below!
Something about this blustery weather has me turning inside. Perhaps it's a settling into the dark, cold days of winter that's got my mind feeling reflective and even a bit melancholy, but whatever it is I know I am in a state of deep and mindful fermentation. There are definitely changes brewing within my life and soul. I am feeling my way through this hallow season by seeking to surround myself with all the things that comfort me.
First, I was drawn to pull my pashmina scarves from their hiding spot in the hall closet, instantly leaning toward the colors of warm pumpkin and green apple. Their lush folds felt like a warm cozy blanket around my neck to ward off the Fall chill as I went off to hunt down holiday gifts. Yes, I am an early shopper, I find it helps me to get and stay in the holiday spirit. Pulling on my insulated ski coat and bright polka-dotted galoshes helped me to feel toasty and safe as I traveled in and out of the crisp air making my way from store to store.
Fall's bounty was captivating, I found myself unable to resist picking up added treats to warm my home, a set of new scented candles of bayberry and cinnamon-cranberry, each filling my nose and mind with fragrant memories of crunching leaves and hot mulled wine, a cozy new knitted hat and even a hearty meal of bratwurst and sauerkraut to stew in the crockpot. Everything bringing me to a sense of returning to my inner hearth and home.
Now as I sit typing this, a warm mug of tea by my side, the wind howls outside the window and I watch the last few leaves of the tree flutter helplessly against the inevitable falling to come. A gentle reminder, I think, that clinging to one's past can be far more painful than the sweet release of accepting life's inevitable and often cyclical change. Or it might just be the echo of a memory drawing me home a sweet somber call from the hallows of Fall.
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